I go on Facebook sometimes when I'm bored at work. I belong to a few groups, some about veganism, some about abortion, some about gay marriage and then some about atheism. I'm pro-choice 100%. I don't care if a woman wants an abortion because she isn't ready for a baby, or is too young, or the condom broke, or if she just plain thinks they're fun and wants to get one every weekend. I think abortion should always be available to a woman, regardless of WHY.
So this dude started a thread asking what should women legally be told about before getting an abortion. And I said that I think women should be informed of what children cost to raise, the damage they do to a woman's body during pregnancy and childbirth, how much work they are, etc. Because everyone should know how much being a parent can suck balls before actually being a parent. Don't believe me? Go to the True Mom Confessions website some time and read the depressing and disturbing things I've read there. I've read a few from women that say they never wanted to be mothers, but listened to and bought into all that crap about "You'll love it once it's born!" and "But when it's your own you'll be glad you kept it!" So now they're trapped with a kid they still don't want. It really is unfortunate that they were that naive.
So I made this comment about the certain things they should know about having a baby, and HOLY SHITBALLS IN A BASKET did I get spat on for it! A gang of pro-choice softies got their panties in a twist because I stated my opinion and it was (gasp!) different than what they've had ingrained in their minds! Here is what some of them had to say:
"Pregnant women deserve actual facts, not just YOUR opinion!"
"You're not a mom, so you don't know what being a mom is about! You have no idea how much kids cost, so just shut your mouth!"
"Just because being a mother is not the choice you would make, that doesn't mean that the women who DO make that choice deserve to be put down for it!"
"YOU are anti-choice."
(this was the funniest one)
"If being a parent is such a mistake, why do people continue to reproduce?"
"Every species has to reproduce! If we didn't we'd all die!"
"You're just an angry lesbian!"
Yes, clearly if you are on Facebook and you're pro-choice, you have a big chance of letting something cloud your logic. None of these people even took in what I said: that being a parent can (and often does) ruin lives. All they saw was someone who had no intention of having kids and wasn't afraid to not follow the script, and they couldn't handle it. The one who called me an angry lesbian made me laugh my ass off. I mean they all did, but that one especially. Plus they were making it sound like women who wanted abortions were these weak, frail little girls who didn't know how to add two and two, and that I was out to ruin their lives or something. Yes, me, the big bad childfree woman! Watch out! I just might tell the truth about something instead of lying to someone to get them to push out a brat they don't want so that I can drool over it!
I've read about this on other CF blogs, that pretty much every message board or forum out there is breeder-pandering, and now I'm seeing it with my own eyes. And this was a pro-choice forum too! Where women can have the choice to abortion, but not a differing opinion.
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